As I think, reflect, observe and desperately try to understand why we do what we do, why many of us get to a place of joy, strength and abundance, only to get back into a state of overwhelm, struggle and defeat - self-sabatoge perhaps...why? Maybe it is as simple as feeling we are not worthy of it. My patterns seem to go in this direction often, but why? If I understand why, if WE understand why we do the things that we do, maybe then we can make a conscious decision to CHANGE the patterns/habits.
So tonight I was the only one still awake in my house at 7:30 and after I cleaned up the dishes, I decided to do something that I wanted to do. I specifically ordered one channel through Bell today in order to tune into Super Soul Sunday tonight. It was 8:00 and I knew that Jack Canfield was on at 7, so I was going to watch the recording. But at 8:00 another program caught my eye, it was called Super Soul Sessions. One of my favourite authors, Brene Brown was going to discuss trust and someone I've never heard of, Tim Storey was speaking about comebacks. I knew that this was what I was meant to watch tonight. As I watched these two speakers not only did I gain some great tools to add to my tool basket as I continue to grow, but I learned that I didn't need to order the channel after all, because this is available for free here: http://www.supersoul.tv/category/supersoul-sessions/ -just in case you are like me and do not have OWN on your TV programming. I wanted to pay forward the free link and also a few take-aways that helped me and they just may help you also.
Brene discussed trust, and after taking the time to express what trust is to her and how we can trust others, it came down to trusting ourselves first. If we cannot trust ourselves-we will never fully trust others. A message that really hit home was (actually her whole piece was impactful), but she talked about the fact that understanding trust gives us words to express and break down specifics of trust, (dependability, reliability, boundaries being compromised). Loss of trust from others isn't the main area of lack of trust, it is the lack of trust in ourself. Brene went on to express a time that she went through her own struggles and she stopped to ask herself these questions:
So tonight I was the only one still awake in my house at 7:30 and after I cleaned up the dishes, I decided to do something that I wanted to do. I specifically ordered one channel through Bell today in order to tune into Super Soul Sunday tonight. It was 8:00 and I knew that Jack Canfield was on at 7, so I was going to watch the recording. But at 8:00 another program caught my eye, it was called Super Soul Sessions. One of my favourite authors, Brene Brown was going to discuss trust and someone I've never heard of, Tim Storey was speaking about comebacks. I knew that this was what I was meant to watch tonight. As I watched these two speakers not only did I gain some great tools to add to my tool basket as I continue to grow, but I learned that I didn't need to order the channel after all, because this is available for free here: http://www.supersoul.tv/category/supersoul-sessions/ -just in case you are like me and do not have OWN on your TV programming. I wanted to pay forward the free link and also a few take-aways that helped me and they just may help you also.
Brene discussed trust, and after taking the time to express what trust is to her and how we can trust others, it came down to trusting ourselves first. If we cannot trust ourselves-we will never fully trust others. A message that really hit home was (actually her whole piece was impactful), but she talked about the fact that understanding trust gives us words to express and break down specifics of trust, (dependability, reliability, boundaries being compromised). Loss of trust from others isn't the main area of lack of trust, it is the lack of trust in ourself. Brene went on to express a time that she went through her own struggles and she stopped to ask herself these questions:
- Did I honour my own boundaries?
- Was I reliable?
- Can I count on myself?
- Did I hold myself accountable?
- Did I stay in my integrity?
- Was I judgemental toward myself?
- Was I generous toward myself?
- Self trust is self love, self respect.
- If you can't count on yourself, you can't ask others to give you what you don't have.
Tim Storey was the next speaker and as I said earlier I had never heard of him, but again his message was very interesting and helpful as I process my own opportunity for growth.
He talked about setbacks and comebacks.
"A comeback is not a go-back. A comeback is not about going back to dwell or fix the past. There are NEW things happening for you." He goes on to talk about changes. Get excited for your comeback, know that it is coming -because you are ready. He says to meditate, study, go out in nature, breathe in the gifts you are receiving from God, universe, higher power (whatever it is you believe) and become inspired. He goes on to say that IF we feel sorry for ourselves, we cannot be a change agent for someone else. He believes that nothing is an accident. We all go through "stuff" and thank goodness we have a choice...the stuff can leave us bitter or it can leave us better.
He talked about setbacks and comebacks.
"A comeback is not a go-back. A comeback is not about going back to dwell or fix the past. There are NEW things happening for you." He goes on to talk about changes. Get excited for your comeback, know that it is coming -because you are ready. He says to meditate, study, go out in nature, breathe in the gifts you are receiving from God, universe, higher power (whatever it is you believe) and become inspired. He goes on to say that IF we feel sorry for ourselves, we cannot be a change agent for someone else. He believes that nothing is an accident. We all go through "stuff" and thank goodness we have a choice...the stuff can leave us bitter or it can leave us better.
Final share for this post, my thoughts as they roll off my fingertips - by Tara Cooper:
At the end of the day, when we all do the best we can, we have done our part. Enough, you are enough, is the soft whisper you feel and hear from within. Somedays we do have more to give, while other days I believe it is ok to trust ourselves when less is actually more, and less becomes enough at that moment. Pushing ourselves everyday, leaving our tank empty, is just plain stupid. Doing this too often will leave us sick and depleted - this helps no one.
You will become fulfilled and complete:
Those who master the skill of being present and in the moment, who master the gift of balance, who master the wonderful qualities of being in integrity, being non-judgemental toward themselves and others, and for trusting their own voice
- YOU WILL BECOME FULFILLED AND COMPLETE.
To the people who keep working to improve themselves daily, to those who follow their heart and not the logic or opinions of others, to those who know how to set healthy boundaries, to those who live without guilt, blame, shame and self-doubts.
-YOU WILL BECOME FULFILLED AND COMPLETE.
To those who feel fear, who feel stuck or unclear but who go after their dreams anyway. To those who embrace imperfections, uncertainty, change and growth, who believe in something they cannot yet see, touch, taste or feel - but they know and trust in what is possible.
-YOU WILL BECOME FULFILLED AND COMPLETE.
To those who never settle, who never stay stuck, who understand and accept that taking the time they need to gain strength in the process is important, who don't beat themselves up, but keep putting one foot in front of the other, even if it is a "shimmy" today.
-YOU WILL BECOME FULFILLED AND COMPLETE.
To those who may feel like giving up, but don't. For those who see opportunity in the moments of struggle, for those who realize they are worthy, even when at times this feeling of being unworthy has become an identity.
-YOU WILL BECOME FULFILLED AND COMPLETE.
To those who are determined to close the gap, the gap between the version others see of you and the version you are when no one can see you. To those who go to work on themselves more than they work on anything else. To those who are not afraid to show emotion, to be transparent, to be authentic even when others may not approve.
-YOU WILL BECOME FULFILLED AND COMPLETE.
To those who have the courage to do whatever it takes to keep moving, even when it hurts so much to even lift a finger. To those who see the pain and suffering in others and even when it would be easier to ignore or turn away they push forward to help, even when they feel their own tank feels like it is almost dry. Why? Because they can relate and they know what it feels like to suffer too.
-YOU WILL BECOME FULFILLED AND COMPLETE.
To those who are sad and feeling lost, but who persevere and find the strength to appreciate and give gratitude to the setback you might be going through, but who create a comeback stronger than ever before. To those who are self-motivated and determined to stand up again and again, even after another knock down.
-YOU WILL BECOME FULFILLED AND COMPLETE.
To those who are ready to rise up and completely show up, even though it makes your legs tremble. To those who are about to open a new door without even knowing who is in your corner. To those who are ready and to those who know that the only person you must be able to count on is yourself, to trust and know that the only person responsible to spread your wings is YOU.
-YOU WILL BECOME FULFILLED AND COMPLETE.
To those who are ready to change. To those who are ready to break free from the invisible chains you've placed around yourself, to those who are ready to learn what loving yourself is about. For those who know that without self-love, no love is possible. For those who are ready to truly become the person you were meant to be, for those who trust the process.
-YOU WILL BECOME FULFILLED AND COMPLETE.
We are ALL here to live a life of fulfillment and purpose. Happiness comes from within - yes, but for true happiness to occur, in my opinion (to close the gap between what people see and what you are living inside) we must feel fulfilled - and this feeling can only come from inside, when we feel great about who we've become. You are here for a reason and that day you find out what your purpose really is, will be the same day you live fulfilled and complete. Losing sight of this, will leave us feeling empty.
~Tara Cooper
You will become fulfilled and complete:
Those who master the skill of being present and in the moment, who master the gift of balance, who master the wonderful qualities of being in integrity, being non-judgemental toward themselves and others, and for trusting their own voice
- YOU WILL BECOME FULFILLED AND COMPLETE.
To the people who keep working to improve themselves daily, to those who follow their heart and not the logic or opinions of others, to those who know how to set healthy boundaries, to those who live without guilt, blame, shame and self-doubts.
-YOU WILL BECOME FULFILLED AND COMPLETE.
To those who feel fear, who feel stuck or unclear but who go after their dreams anyway. To those who embrace imperfections, uncertainty, change and growth, who believe in something they cannot yet see, touch, taste or feel - but they know and trust in what is possible.
-YOU WILL BECOME FULFILLED AND COMPLETE.
To those who never settle, who never stay stuck, who understand and accept that taking the time they need to gain strength in the process is important, who don't beat themselves up, but keep putting one foot in front of the other, even if it is a "shimmy" today.
-YOU WILL BECOME FULFILLED AND COMPLETE.
To those who may feel like giving up, but don't. For those who see opportunity in the moments of struggle, for those who realize they are worthy, even when at times this feeling of being unworthy has become an identity.
-YOU WILL BECOME FULFILLED AND COMPLETE.
To those who are determined to close the gap, the gap between the version others see of you and the version you are when no one can see you. To those who go to work on themselves more than they work on anything else. To those who are not afraid to show emotion, to be transparent, to be authentic even when others may not approve.
-YOU WILL BECOME FULFILLED AND COMPLETE.
To those who have the courage to do whatever it takes to keep moving, even when it hurts so much to even lift a finger. To those who see the pain and suffering in others and even when it would be easier to ignore or turn away they push forward to help, even when they feel their own tank feels like it is almost dry. Why? Because they can relate and they know what it feels like to suffer too.
-YOU WILL BECOME FULFILLED AND COMPLETE.
To those who are sad and feeling lost, but who persevere and find the strength to appreciate and give gratitude to the setback you might be going through, but who create a comeback stronger than ever before. To those who are self-motivated and determined to stand up again and again, even after another knock down.
-YOU WILL BECOME FULFILLED AND COMPLETE.
To those who are ready to rise up and completely show up, even though it makes your legs tremble. To those who are about to open a new door without even knowing who is in your corner. To those who are ready and to those who know that the only person you must be able to count on is yourself, to trust and know that the only person responsible to spread your wings is YOU.
-YOU WILL BECOME FULFILLED AND COMPLETE.
To those who are ready to change. To those who are ready to break free from the invisible chains you've placed around yourself, to those who are ready to learn what loving yourself is about. For those who know that without self-love, no love is possible. For those who are ready to truly become the person you were meant to be, for those who trust the process.
-YOU WILL BECOME FULFILLED AND COMPLETE.
We are ALL here to live a life of fulfillment and purpose. Happiness comes from within - yes, but for true happiness to occur, in my opinion (to close the gap between what people see and what you are living inside) we must feel fulfilled - and this feeling can only come from inside, when we feel great about who we've become. You are here for a reason and that day you find out what your purpose really is, will be the same day you live fulfilled and complete. Losing sight of this, will leave us feeling empty.
~Tara Cooper
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